10 Tips To Kickstart Your Sex Life Today!

Has your sex life somewhat been neglected a bit lately?  It’s not that you don't care but well, it's just a matter of finding the time and energy.  It may seem impossible some days because there's a whole lot to attend to including work, cleaning, working out, shopping for grocery, laundry, cooking dinner, attending to the kids and other family commitments, friends, ironing-the list is endless!  

At the end of the day, you just pass out within minutes of hitting your bed. Or you're not in the mood. Or you’re just not bothered.  Before long, a month has passed and you can't recollect the last time you had sex.  Also, when was the last time you gave your partner a passionate kiss, not just a quick peck? 

Maybe you've even fallen into a rut. Your sex life has become more of a routine. You have sex in the same place at almost the same time each week and you do the same things.  Routine is good for things like ironing your wears and brushing your teeth, but it shouldn't creep into your sex life when variety and excitement are crucial elements that make it fulfilling.

Does this sound like you? Do you want to reignite passion in your sex life, then read on. 

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1. Be spontaneous

The element of surprise can be very seductive.  Have a shower together, shock your partner with a long, passionate kiss when they are expecting to just graze lips, buy some new sexy lingerie and put it on.

2. Get healthy

Eating well and exercising regularly put you in better touch with your body and that inner healthy glow not only makes you look more attractive but gives you loads of energy and makes you feel more vibrant and alive.

3. Be affectionate

If it’s been a while you last had sex, then it may be better to build up gradually to get back into the groove.  Instead of trying to go from a standing start to racing speed, ease your way back into the physical by touching when you can and by being considerate with each other. Touch when you talk. Stop to kiss when you walk past each other in the hallway.  Trail your finger along their shoulder as they sit reading a magazine.  Cuddle on the couch in front of your favorite movie. 

4. Be sensual

Give your partner a peppermint foot bath when they get home from a busy day.  Massage their hands, scalp, back - wherever takes your fancy (if you don't know how to massage, don't think about it, just do what feels good).  You can tickle your partner by using a feather or silk scarf to trail along the length of their body.

5. Be affirmative to your partner

Even when you've been together a long time, your partner may not always know what you fancy and even if they do, it won’t hurt if you tell them again once in a while. Tell them what you like and why. Armed with more information from you, you never know what next they may do to please you.

6. Read your partner an erotic bedtime story 

The mind is very important attempting to resuscitate your sex life.  It needs to be first of all turned on and the body will follow.  There are some great erotic fictions around or you could try Nancy Friday for stories about the sexual fantasies of other people.

7. Have fun 

When was the last time you had a good laugh together?  Put on your favorite track and dance.  Or get the music that was popular when you first got acquainted and play that for a trip down memory lane over dinner. Take a midnight dip.

8. Write a sexy letter 

If you can't express in words to your partner what you really want them to do to you, then writing it down is a good alternative. It affords you the chance to be as specific as you would like without any hindrance and gives your partner time to process what you've said and get into the mood. You can search online if you need help on how to write love letters.

9. Experiment

Learn a new sex technique together. Try a romantic weekend away from home.  You could also try a sex toy from the many varieties on offer. If you’ve always had sex lying down, then try sitting standing positions. If you're always on top, then try switching roles.

10. Focus on the now

When you do get down to it, it is important that you keep your focus on exactly what you’re doing presently. To do this, you must stop the rant going on in your own head.  Don't worry that you need to call your mother about her birthday or you forgot to pick up the drycleaning, or the fact that you need to do some grocery shopping. All of that stuff should wait till later. And I mean much later. Chances are it won't seem really that important once you're done.